Fears are a necessary evil. Everyone has them, and hardly anyone enjoys them. But one thing is for certain: they can be great learning opportunities.
I’ve got a lot things I’m afraid of. Some are irrational, like my fear of bugs. Some are a little more realistic, like loneliness and rejection. But there’s only one I’m most afraid of.
My biggest fear has become popular around the internet lately — it’s the fear of missing out, or FOMO.
I’m always afraid missed opportunities. Internships, part-time jobs, partnerships, and volunteer opportunities — they always catch my eye. And because of my fear, I have a really hard time saying no.
But what if this leads to an awesome career path?
What if I learn how to design websites from this?
My fear of missing out is, ironically, making me miss out.
So the better question might be “what if I don’t take this opportunity?”
What if I turn down this volunteer job so I can fully commit myself to my job?
What if I don’t play beach volleyball this summer so I can spend more time training my puppy?
Rather than focusing on a wide breadth of opportunities, I need to learn to focus on the depth of the opportunities I agree to.
I need to use my fear as a learning opportunity. What am I most afraid of missing out on? Is it the actual opportunity, or is the potential outcome? And if it’s the potential outcome, could I achieve it another way?
Getting to the root of my fear is what will help me grow from it.